I was asleep for 17 years. I walked, spoke, I bathed like other human beings, but there was a part of me heavy and closed and unaware. I fed myself booze and pills. I drove cars. I stood thigh deep in the Atlantic in February until I couldn’t feel my toes. I bled like other …
If you are in an abusive relationship, or know someone who is and want to help, make a safety plan. Being prepared, thinking ahead, and taking good care of yourself are the most important things you can do. Having a safety plan assures that you have thought through various scenarios and have options in mind …
Whenever we hear of a domestic violence situation we ask why she puts up with it. By far the most common question asked about violence in relationships is: ‘why doesn’t she just leave?’. We respond this way out of a gut feeling, a revulsion and hope all twisted up into one emotion: we want the woman …
It can be tempting to think that treatment (or anger management, AA, substance abuse treatment) holds a magic cure for their abusive partner. “If only he would go to treatment, things would be fine.” Abusive men are not bad men; they aren’t abusive 24 hours a day and they have many qualities of strength, intelligence, …
